Ask hard questions
Let’s face it, all relationships were not made in heaven and all of them are not going to work out in the long run. If you have just gone through a break up one of the two of you is asking how to get your ex back. I know it is difficult but you need to let go of the emotional reasons for asking that question. Can you find valid rational reasons why you want them back? It may be that it is time to move on and start a new relationship with someone more attuned to who you are as a person.